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Key Takeaways
Imposter Syndrome and the impacts on job performance. 1:30
Where did they not feel good enough? 3:03
How do you overcome the feeling of guilt and shame? 4:15
The value of a free offer. 6:39
Recognise the negative voice in your head. 7:47
The belief that you’re not good enough. 9:12
Book or programme that set you on the track. 10:24
How do you overcome feeling like an impostor? 11:41
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Transcript
Note, this was transcribed using a transcription software and may not reflect the exact words used in the podcast)
SUMMARY KEYWORDS
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SPEAKERS
Janet Gabriel, Stuart Webb
Stuart Webb 00:24
Hi, and welcome back to it's not rocket science five questions over coffee. I've got my coffee mug in front of me I know Janet's also got something to drink. So Oh, you're drinking water, Janet, that's very good, probably much more healthy than what I'm taking them out, which is probably appropriate. Janet is a transformational coach. I I've met Janet on a couple of occasions. And frankly, some of the stories she's told me. Absolutely fascinating. So I hope we're going to get into a little bit of that now. So welcome to the podcast. Janet.
Janet Gabriel 00:56
Thank you for inviting me. I'm looking forward to it.
Stuart Webb 00:58
Terrific. So, Janet, tell us a little bit about the sort of people you're trying to help.
Janet Gabriel 01:05
So I mostly work with women in business and entrepreneurs who are suffering with imposter syndrome. Some people say what is impostor syndrome? It's feeling like a fraud, feeling that you're not good enough to be in the position in your job or running your business, or even in a relationship
Stuart Webb 01:24
where we don't we all occasionally feel that way. And there's no there's no harm in admitting it as well. That's the thing that I think stops people and maybe that goes into the second question is, what is it that some of the people you're trying to help have already tried to do that have maybe sort of not succeeded in trying to help them break these imposter syndromes? And what are the what are the impacts of imposter syndrome on their ability to do their job, that relationship, etc.
Janet Gabriel 01:53
Okay, so they tend to work harder and longer than anyone else, they may be a bit of a perfectionist, this shows up quite a lot. They believe that if they get everything perfect, that they'll stay under the radar, this is what they're trying to do. So they might find themselves in a job that they don't particularly like, and but they will stay there. Because they're comfortable. If they went for promotion, for example, they're not likely to ask for the promotion, they're waiting for the boss or somebody else to recommend them first. Because they're not confident enough. And they have low self esteem. So they're staying in their job so that they can stay quiet. So they're not progressing. Or maybe they want to start their own business. But again, they believe that other people know what they're doing. They're far more experienced than them. So they don't put themselves out.
Stuart Webb 02:45
Yeah, yeah. And we've all met people that have done that, haven't we that somehow the long hours are going to solve the problem? So that's obviously not worked? What what do you do? What do you help them? And how have you helped some of these people?
Janet Gabriel 02:59
So I helped by getting to the root cause of the issues. So where did it come from? Why did they not feel good enough. So around about the age of seven or eight, most of your beliefs about yourself are fixed. So not feeling worthy, not feeling good enough, not feeling lovable, likeable, capable, etc. And we take all those negative beliefs into adulthood, where they will run the show. Because 97% of all our daily thinking, our emotions, our reactions are all coming from our subconscious mind. So it's as if we're still running on that seven or eight year old. So using hypnotherapy, which is perfectly safe, we all go into a hypnotic state every day. So if you're making a cup of coffee, for instance, or driving the same route every day, you're not thinking about it, you're also dries. So I help by putting my clients in a very relaxed state. It's nothing like state hypnosis. It's just a two way conversation. And I find out where their beliefs came from. And it is always fascinating because sometimes we don't know why we act the way we do. So when my clients find out, Oh, gosh, you know, when I was six, I was in a class at school, and something happened. And I'll give you a quick example. One lady said, and she remembers that she's, gosh, how old is she? Now she's in her 30s. As she remembers this very clearly that they have paintings around the school classroom. And at the end of the turn, the teacher was giving them out. She said, this girl, which one's yours, and she pointed to one of the teachers that can't possibly be yours. It's too good. Those teachers and another lady told me, she wasn't very academic and And she did particularly well in a project. And when the teacher handed them out, he said to her in front of her, can you imagine this? You must have cheated. She sat next to one of the very clever boys in the class. And he said, I believe you cheated off of him. Oh, sorry, that belief of even when I try really hard, it's not good enough that stuck. And obviously, there were a lot of other things going on.
Stuart Webb 05:29
That's, yeah, I mean, I don't want you to divulge any secrets. But how do you get people to overcome that feeling during this, this discussion you have when they're very nicely relaxed, and they suddenly realise that's what happened,
Janet Gabriel 05:43
is getting them to recognise where their beliefs came from in the first place, and that they are still running on that very old outdated programming. And then we can change it. So they're looking at that particular, you know, scene that they've gone to, in that very relaxed state, and they are, they're looking at it as an adult now. So changing it that isn't true. I do have personalised recording for all of my clients, which they absolutely love. And it depends on the person on each individual. Some listen to it for 21 consecutive days. And that helps you change your neural pathways, changing the way you're thinking and updating your thinking and beliefs. Some people take longer, it could take up to 60 days. I've used the word like the clients over a three month period. So they get three recordings. We spoke to them.
Stuart Webb 06:39
Brilliant, brilliant. Now I know you've got a really interesting offer, which is which is going under the screen now. So I just I just say it for those people who are listening and can't see but but it will be in the show notes. It's Jared Gabriel therapy.com HTTPS hyphen be it hyphen l EY hyphen, three user ID J GQ. I think that is h three? I think that's probably got that right. I don't know, Janet, I don't know. I may be wrong. But it will be in the show notes. I have a look in the show notes. We get Jenny, tell us what what are what is there on that valuable, valuable free offer that that that page
Janet Gabriel 07:17
10 Things you can stop doing right now that's causing you the problem?
Stuart Webb 07:22
That is such a valuable free offer? Isn't it? 10? I mean, that's 10 things, not just one or two, that's 10 whole things you can do, which is great, great way. I must say I just had a quick look. So I think I think that's a really great offer, Janet, I mean, do you want to give us a hint of one or two of those things? Not all 10 Because we don't want to get everybody sort of not going to that length. But But what I want to tell you the things that we could stop doing now.
Janet Gabriel 07:47
Just recognise what you're saying to yourself everyday. Get that negative voice, that chatter that you can't shut down recognising what you're saying to yourself. And if you believe that you're in a career that you're not good enough, would it actually stand up in court? Just ask yourself, or if it was a good friend of yours with the same experience and qualifications as you? What would you be saying to them, having this positive self talk, and the way we speak to ourselves affects us emotionally, there's a mind body connection. So the more you have chest and having that negative negative self talk, and you will then start to experience other symptoms. If you suppress your emotions, they will come out somewhere else. So clients come to me they have migraines, constant headaches, stomach issues. If they're stressed, they've got IBS flaring up just what the lady got her IBS, so under control, because she's sorted out her, her anxieties been absolutely amazing. You know, things like eczema flaring up, and then it's the vicious circle, isn't it, you're stressed, your Xmas flared up, which is so irritating, and then you're more stressed. So again, you're in that vicious cycle. And again, those beliefs that you have, I need to work harder and longer than anyone else. Everything has to be perfect. Oh, I'm having to do this. Because I'm not good enough. I'm not good enough. So I have to work hard and they you go round in those circles. And it does affect not only your health, your relationships as well.
Stuart Webb 09:36
Brilliant, love it. Absolutely love it. And, you know, from my own personal experience, I know. You know, it's a bit like that one that you're often told, particularly when I used to do a lot of public speaking and I kept thinking to myself, What happens if an eye mentors took me aside and went look, for goodness sake, you know, fake it till you make it because nobody else knows whether or not you're You know, they're all sitting there wondering what's going on as well. And if you tell them by, you know, by basically telling yourself, you're not good enough or telling yourself, you're gonna make a mistake, they'll look at you and go, Well, I can see he's made a mistake. But if you tell yourself, it's fine, they'll think it's fine. And it is that self talk, isn't it? It's just beginning to sort of bring yourself under control and just saying, you know, this is it, there's so much so much in there. So, I mean, there's Brilliant, thank you, Janet, thank you so much. Now, there must be a book or a programme or a course that really set you on the track towards this what was what was that that book or programme, of course, that you think other people might enjoy reading about other than your own your own therapy in imposter syndrome.
Janet Gabriel 10:41
What really resonated with me was, I am good enough. And I needed help years ago, and I was sent for CBT online, which didn't work for me, beginning of the third session, the therapist said, this isn't working, and I couldn't agree more. It's no good just talking about your issues, you need to resolve them. And that's what I do for my clients. So that book really resonated with me. And that's what got me on the course for rapid transformational therapy. So I've not only been able to sort my own issues out, I've been able to help friends and family, which has been absolutely amazing. I've got hundreds, I could recommend so many books and podcasts. This is what I do every evening, I'm either listening to a podcast or reading a self help book. I absolutely love what I do. And I never stop learning.
Stuart Webb 11:34
Not that brilliant. Now, this is where I get away from having to spend all my time thinking about questions, and I put them straight back to you. So there must be a question, which you're currently thinking he hasn't asked me about or something like that. So what's the question that I should have asked you, Janet. And when I've asked you the question, I should have asked you answer the question for me, please.
Janet Gabriel 11:56
The question would be everyone's out there asking how do I overcome feeling like an impostor or fraud or not good enough? And the answer is, I have already touched on this, you need to update your programming. So we update our laptops, we update our phone or hope we do. We need to update our thinking because as I said, you're you're operating on that old, very outdated programming. So you see very successful people, or maybe you've worked with somebody who suddenly will go off with long term stress. This happened a lot when I worked for the NHS, and people would just disappear. And you'd have no idea that they was really struggling at the time. You know, people don't speak about this women come to me. Their friends and family have absolutely no idea what they're going through. Or their partner. They they very much they're ashamed to say how they're feeling. And they want everyone to know they're still coping. So for me, hypnotherapy has just been life changing. Because you can update those those thoughts and beliefs that you had.
Stuart Webb 13:05
Fabulous. Brilliant. Janet, I loved our conversation. Thank you so much for spending a few minutes with us and just talking to us about this. It's been a real pleasure sort of talking about this. Let me just introduce everybody here to the link which you can use to get on the mailing list and that means that you get an email from me on normally on Monday or a Tuesday morning telling you who it is that's coming on this week's podcast so you can join us live on LinkedIn and YouTube and watch and and and understand people like Janet and the help she brings people and that's TCA dot FYI, forward slash subscribe, TCA dot FYI, folks, I subscribe. Jared, thank you so much for coming on. And just spending a few minutes with us. I really appreciate you being here. I really look forward to to hearing more of those wonderful stories and I really appreciate how much effort you're putting in to help us all and impostor syndrome.
Janet Gabriel 13:58
My absolute pleasure. Thank you so much for inviting me. Thank you. Have a great day. Bye bye. Thank you. Bye
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